Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Why should we be surprised that more marriages fail than succeed, when the most pervasive and persuasive textbook for love and romance in our culture is the mainstream film genre of romantic comedies? The lies are staggering.
I just watched a mainstream romantic comedy that left me feeling physically ill. The underlying lies of the film pile up with every new character the audience meets: Marriage is a wretched endeavor that will certainly squelch any ounce of fun and romance out of your life. The only reason a man ever marries a woman is because she manipulates him or forces him to do so. Marriage is hard, so it must not be the best way. The way to true love and happiness is to cast tradition aside, follow your heart and do what feels right.
Is marriage hard? You bet. The hardest thing I’ve ever done. The only thing I’ve ever done that is worth failing at on a daily basis, and worth getting up the next day and trying again. Marriage is teaching me what it means to truly love and be loved; what it means to give grace and desperately need grace.
I am married to a real man, a man’s man, who pursued me with a vigor that I still don’t understand, who could hardly wait 11 weeks to marry me, who committed to love me until his dying breath, who loves me too much to sit passively beside and let me become the worst version of myself, who is strong enough to lead with patience and humility, and who reminds me every day that his decision to love me cannot be undone.
Six years ago this week, Lucas set his love on me. For life. And nothing could be more romantic than that.
I’m sick of Hollywood telling me that true love is a fluttery feeling and marriage is worthless. Tonight, I’m going to kiss my husband like I mean it, and thank him for being my own personal textbook on true love in real life.
Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Monday, June 22, 2009
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
We just had four GREAT days in Denver with Lucas' Mom and Tony! We've got lots of pictures and stories to tell, but for now I'll just leave you with my favorite photo from Denver: Maximus getting soaked by his Pops. Max had taken a cup of water over to Pops and taunted him with it, threatening to pour it on him. Pops very calmly told him: "Max, if you get me, I will get you." Max gambled and lost. :-) It was hilarious.
Tuesday, June 09, 2009
Tonight we are packing up the car; tomorrow we are saying farewell to Idaho for the summer! We are super thankful to have a great guy from NNU staying in our house while we're gone this summer– it's so nice to know that he will be able to watch the place and keep the lawn for us while we're out of town.